My it’s been forever it seems since my last blog…a little
behind but bear with me. This blog isn’t just about Autism…it’s about people
treating others with DISABILTIES terribly! Not just those with Autism, but with
any disability. I have a few videos that I want to share with you as to prime
examples of people who really need to learn about disabilities, compassion and
understanding and most importantly acceptance.
As a mother of two children with Autism, each day I worry
that they will be treating badly by someone who doesn’t know about Autism,
understand it and does not possess the capacity to accept it. While I
personally feel that these are all characteristics that all human beings should
possess. With that said, there are a great number of people that are lacking in
these areas.
As I am sure many of you have read or at least heard about
the horrid letter that was left in a mailbox of a woman whose grandson Maxwell
lived there and also had Autism. The letter which I will attach to my blog as
well as a video story on the issue, was so vile, horrific, and cruel. I cannot
imagine ANY mother telling another mother that she should euthanize her own
child. My statement to the “author” of the letter is “Have you lost your ever
loving mind? You know you were wrong when you wrote the letter or you would
have left your name! How dare you think for one second that you have the RIGHT
to say something like this to anyone especially about a child. Shame on you for
the vile things you put on that paper. Your children, will treat people with
disabilities the same way you do, because you teach them to. I just want to say
one thing to you. The statistics show right now 1 out of every 31 boys will be
diagnosed with Autism. One day you will know someone or love someone who is
going to be diagnosed with Autism. It’s a reality, so don’t say it won’t
happen. It will! And then what, will you ask that others not treat that
INNOCENT child the same way you have treated MAXWELL and his family? Will you
demand they be treated fairly. Be treated as any other child? How hurt will you
feel when that child is in tears because they were treated badly because
someone else’s parents taught them to treat him the same way you are treating
your children now? Will you demand that they not be treated that way?
I don’t expect to be treated any DIFFERENT than you expect
to be treated. I don’t expect my children to be treated any DIFFERENT than you
expect your children to be treated. That isn’t asking for special treatment.
That is equality. If you need to look up the meaning take a moment and do so.
Do the right thing here, if you don’t want to admit who you are and that you
wrote that letter, learn, and I mean REALLY learn about Autism and begin
teaching your children to be accepting of it, teach them how to understand the
differences and above all teach them to befriend a child with Autism and be
good to them. That is my wish for you. Not to be humiliated or hated by
everyone, just to learn about Autism and accept the differences and teach your
children to treat others better than you yourself have done.
Now a video that I viewed this morning just burned my buns!
I appreciate all service given by all military members, police officers, EMS
and firefighters. These wonderful people risk their lives each and everyday to
keep us safe. And sadly many times while they may come home alive, there are
injuries, that we may or may not be able to see. For the man in the video, the
war he fought overseas caused him to have PTSD. For anyone that does not
believe it’s real, do me a favor, go get on a plane, go to any country where
the is war, and stay there for one hour. If you don’t come back all freaked out
let me know! Or as with my above advice, research and learn about PTSD. Okay
off that rant, the American Hero in this video, went to breakfast at a local
diner, and yes took his SERVICE dog with him. And was sadly thrown out. The
owner called the dog a fake service dog. I am sorry, can you tell me how you
know the dog is a fake service dog? Last I checked there were a variety of dog
breeds used as service dog, and while you may think of one breed as the usual
service dog, it’s not so. Variety of dogs, variety of needs for service dogs.
Get it? If not I again encourage you to do a little research on the matter. And
for the refusal to say sorry to him and his fake service dog…..I am sorry that
you will lose business over the ignorance that you apparently feel the need to
force on others and I am sorry you refuse to educate yourself on the issue.
When you are sitting there the day it hits you that you were wrong and now you
have lost more than just a customer, think back to the day you stood in front
of the camera and said those words. Yeah that will be your oh crap moment and
you will wish for a time machine.
Why bring up these videos, these issues? People, businesses,
everyone needs to understand that while there is physical disabilities, some
are invisible. You may not see anything wrong with my kids, you may only see
the kids running around the playground, hugging their mother or playing with
their friends, and then wonder why are they parked in the handicap spot? How
can that woman park in that spot! Well let me tell you, when is the last time
you attempted to try an carry someone who weights almost a hundred pounds and
is tall as you across the parking lot because something caused them to go into
sensory overload and they are having a meltdown. How about the child that does
not understand danger, doesn’t speak because he is non-verbal and darts out in
the parking lot traffic? I do I do! Not every disability can be seen. Next time
you think why are they taking that spot, why are they bringing that dog in
here, why doesn’t she/he/they do something to get that kid to stop throwing a
fit, if that were my kid they wouldn’t behave like that…..THINK….you don’t know
what the situation is, so how do you have the right to judge them…..
And the last story of the day…To the person/woman that was
intoxicated at Coconut Point Mall this week, and threw a young boy to the ground
in the parking lot and then felt it was okay to DRAG him across the parking lot
by his HAIR…..there is not reason that this should EVER happen. I hope and pray
that you are punished to fullest extent of the law and that never will you ever
be allowed to have that child back with you again. Being drunk while having
that child, NOPE! And to treat the child in that manner. Sweetie, shame shame
on you! The child was taken to the hospital for treatment and is in the custody
of Department of Children and Families.
Okay so I promise to blog more now that the kids are back in
school…….until next time!
